Marriage Monday

September 29 was our eight year anniversary, so I have been thinking about Chris and marriage recently. Here's a meme I found about a husband.

1. What is his name?
Chris.

2. How long have you been married?
Eight years.

3. How long did you date?
Hmmm... my mom says too long. But I wanted to finish college first.
Just under seven years. So, that means we have been together for almost 15 years.

4. How old his he?
thirty something

5. Who eats more?
Easy- he does.

6. Who said I love you first?
I did.

7. Who is smarter?
We both have our strong points.

8. Who does the laundry?
He does his, I do mine, whoever gets to it, does the children's.

9. Who does the dishes?
I do, or oversee the girls doing them.

10. Who sleeps on the right side of bed?
He does.

11. Who pays the bills?
Chris does the daily, but I do the long term.

12. Who cooks dinner?
Usually me unless I’m feeling lazy or not so good.

13. Who is more stubborn?
Me? Stubborn, naw.

14. Who proposed?
Chris

16. Who has more siblings?
I have two sisters, he has one sister.

17. Who drives when you are together?
Typically Chris. Although I'll do it if he's too tired or if I know the way and feel like it. But I prefer to navigate.

18. Who has more friends?
I would say he does.

19. Who wears the pants?
Most days, we both wear pants. We are a team.

Love

* What is the first thing you notice about the opposite sex?
“The eyes are the window to the soul.” - Proverb

* What excites you about the opposite sex?
Chivalry. A dying art, but one my husband still has.

* What turns you off?
Crudeness. You know, when you get three or more men in a room and it suddenly switches from polite talk to locker room talk.

* Who sleep next to you at night?
My husband.

* Have you ever had a long distance relationship?
Yes.

* Did it work? Why or why not?
Yes. Love conquers all. One weekend, I was visiting my boyfriend (who became my husband). As I used the restroom on the girls floor of the dorm, I heard two girls talking. One of them said "Chris has a girl visiting him. Do you think it's serious?" The other responded "These long distance relationships never last." One girl left the room by the time I came out of the stall. I then told the girl left that, "Just so you know, I'm the girl visiting Chris, and I'm in it for the long haul." Now, Chris tells me he always wondered why things got cold between her and him. I was not going to let this catch slip, and years later, I'm still glad I married him.

* Have you broken someone's heart?
Maybe.

* Has your heart been broken?
Hurt, yes.

* Have you ever been given an engagement ring?
Yes.

* Have you ever broken an engagement?
No.

* What is your longest relationship?
Including dating plus marriage, fifteen years. Married eight years.
No wonder my mother was nagging us to get married sooner.

* Have you ever been married?
Yes

* When was your last kiss?
Fifteen minutes ago.

Idea for this blog came from http://www.squidoo.com/relationship-meme by BigBlueGirl.

How we met

How we met

We met at Bradley University in 1994. Chris had previously transferred to another college but returned to visit friends on two occasions during that year. From the moment we met, the attraction was there but Samantha was unavailable. The second time however, in October, she was available and the rest is history...

Our Love & the Legend of LadyHawke

Cover of Ladyhawke

This, like ours, is a story of defying the odds. Though their curse was obvious, ours was to us also so. Our curse was distance. Pulled by forces beyond our control, our love too was tested, yet it endured. We feel that in many ways, this story is our story too…


Navarre and Isabeau’s curse was that she would become the spirited Hawk by day, soaring high above the earth, while the man who loves her watches from far below, guided by the light and reassurance she unknowingly provides. At night, he would become the ever-vigilant Wolf, ever wandering and scouting sometimes only barely in sight, while the woman who loves him watches assured by the protection he unknowingly provides. Like two star-crossed lovers brought together only to part once again to their separate worlds, dusk and dawn provided the only hope, the only few moments in which they could almost connect, but not quite. As if separated by leagues of distance yet still able communicate if only through simple messages upon beams of light, they were “always together, eternally apart.”



Their love, like ours, conquered the forces that kept them apart and prospered even after the magic of their love finally broke the spell keeping them, or us, apart.